My precious son

I’m tired but I want to remember tonight. My 8 year old son asked me for relationship advice. He’s an angel. Like a gift from God, when he’s not with his sister. I drive him to dance sometimes. It’s a 30 minute drive one way. It gives us a lot of time to talk. He’s a talker and I love that  about him. On the way back he asked if my husband and I had life insurance. He wanted to know how it worked. (Is he thinking about offing me?) I told him that if we died it would go to him and his sister. He wanted to know if he could then pass it to his kids (it’s really not that much and I don’t know) I said yes.  He then launched into a convo about how he wonders who he will marry someday.  Did I wonder the same? Did I know his dad was THE one? He wonders what his kids will be named. He hopes he has twins. Am I excited for this? I tell him I just hope that I will be a good grandma someday. He says that he KNOWS I will be, but a bit strict. And what about daddy? (Jesus kid mom and dad started late, I HOPE we make it to grand-kids). Yes Daddy will be a wonderful grandpa I say. (I’m kind of choking back tears at this point, he doesn’t see it). What do you think Daddy will do? …Hmm, he will take your kids out for treats and tickle them and bounce them on his knee and we will be super proud of you and your family.

Mom, will you help me to be a good boyfriend someday? (My heart fucking melts, I might die.) ….Yes love, if you ask me for advice. What do you want to know?

I need to know the 3 rules, and how you ask someone to be your girlfriend. (I’m out of the dating scene for 20+ years now). Ok buddy, it might sound strange since you aren’t actually going out somewhere but we used to say, “do you want to go out with me?”  … but you aren’t going anywhere? …no, it’s just an expression.

What did Daddy say to you?   …he asked me if I would meet him over the weekend for lunch.  …did you? Yes.  Did you know you would marry him? …No. That took time.

“Ok so number one rule?”

-try not to break hearts. Be kind. Let her down easy.

-be respectful. You respect me and Nanny and Grandma. That will come easy to you.

“And respect their parents too or they won’t let me date their daughter!” -good advice James

Hold the door for her, help her put her jacket on, don’t walk ahead of her, hold her hand.  Be good to her, buddy.

“I think I’ve got this mom.” He says as we turn our corner.

Ask me again ok buddy?

My son, my precious son…. 💙